Ask Friends & Family to Be In Your Wedding Party

11 Months Before Your Wedding

A wedding is such a joyous occasion. Not only for you as a couple, but also for your friends and family. Everybody loves to see the joy of a new couple just starting their lives together. Sharing this joy can mean so much and a big part of that is selecting your wedding party. While this can be a fun activity, it can also be a little bit stressful in some regards. If you have a big family or are lucky enough to have a large circle of friends, then selecting your bridal party can become quite the chore. Think through your choices very carefully and determine who can carry out the role of being a part of your wedding party the best.

In some cases, there are some people that are expected to be in your bridal party. If you have any siblings, there’s always an assumption that they will be in your wedding. If for some reason you don’t feel the closeness or prefer to ask them to be a part of your wedding party, just be sure to break the news in a tasteful way. Finding out second hand can be upsetting so prepare accordingly and address the issue if your selection does not include immediate family. Sometimes lining up a different role such as reading at your wedding can be just as meaningful. As you select your bridesmaids and groomsmen, think through who will take the role seriously and who can be depended upon. There are certain responsibilities associated with being in a wedding party and you want to be sure that the people you select will carry those out as they should. Something as simple as going to get fitted and then picking up a bridesmaid dress or tux can be a deal breaker.

Ideally you want to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen so that you can couple them off at the ceremony and reception. There are ways to work around it, but if possible try to make your choices according to keeping equal numbers on each side. Once you’ve selected your bridal party, now comes the fun part of asking them to be such a big part of your special day. For those that live locally, it always means that much more when you can ask them face to face. You’re sure to get a very excited reaction, and that adds to the fun! The way in which you ask is very important when it comes to the big roles of maid of honor and best man, so think through how you can ask in a special way. If some members of your bridal party are out of town, be sure to at least ask in a phone conversation for a touch of personalization. It’s also important to keep all members of your bridal party aware of details as they become available so that they can share in all of the preparation for your special day—no matter where they live you want them to know what’s going on. Have fun with asking the members of your bridal party as this is a meaningful step in your journey!