Finalize Your Wedding Officiant, Plan Your Ceremony

9 Months Before The Wedding

So you’ve done your research and interviewed your potential officiants. Now’s the time to hire one and get the details for your ceremony finalized. You will breathe much better once you have this part of the festivities finalized. As the ceremony flow is such an important part of the big day, it can be stressful but you will feel so relieved when it’s all set. First things first—it’s time to finalize your wedding officiant and discuss the roles and flow of the ceremony itself.

If you are planning a religious ceremony, the flow of it may already be determined for you. There may be parts in which you have a little bit of flexibility and have the ability to insert some of your creative input, but the bulk of the ceremony will be decided upon for you. This makes planning much easier, but the only downfall is that you can’t really get too creative with the vows, prayers or music. This is when the personality of the officiant becomes especially important. You want to rely on their personality to keep the ceremony running smoothly and for them to keep things interesting and easy for guests to understand.

If you are planning your own unique ceremony, then you not only want to ensure you hire an officiant that you can work well with but determine the order of events and how it all flows. This is when you can get a bit more creative with the words and the music, but it will be on you to decide what the important elements will be. If you are selecting an officiant that is close to you but doesn’t perform weddings often, then you may very well have to walk them through the flow and discuss up front what is important to you as a couple. You are in the driver’s seat and you want to be sure that the ceremony is everything you envision it to be—after all this is what will make you officially a married couple!

The focal point of every wedding ceremony should certainly be the vows. This is the foundation of every ceremony and it is these words that bind you together as a couple forever. You can use some of the traditional vows or perhaps add in some words of your own. Just be sure that you are on the same page as the officiant for how these will play out and when they will be incorporated into the ceremony. Plotting out your ceremony well in advance can be helpful to you, the officiant, and everyone involved. Once this task is complete, you can relax a bit knowing that the ceremony is well handled.

One more thing, don’t forget to ask your wedding officiant, what will happen if they are sick or unable to make your ceremony. Do they have a backup, that can fill in for them on a moment’s notice. Do they recommend speaking with a second officiant that could serve as backup? Unexpected things happen and you don’t want to be in scramble mode the day before your wedding trying to find a replacement officiant due to circumstances beyond anyone’s control.

A New Approach to the Family-oriented Wedding

A New Approach to the Family-oriented Wedding

(ARA) – Moving their relationship from dating to marriage was a big step for Lynn Lehman and Cliff Simonelli. One primary concern was how their respective children — Lynn’s two young sons, ages 5 and 8, plus Cliff’s three youngsters, ages 9 to 15 — would come together as a family.

“Cliff and I were both divorced,” explains Lynn, a 38-year-old marketing manager. “Divorce turns kids’ lives upside down. My boys didn’t verbalize anything, but I knew they were worried.  That’s one reason why Cliff and I decided to do something during our wedding to communicate to all the children that we were creating a family that would be there for them.  We wanted them to know that they could trust that our marriage and our new family would not fall apart.”

But finding the perfect “family” wedding ceremony was not as easy as Lynn had anticipated.  She spent hours surfing the Web only to find a lot of so-called blended family products with more sizzle than substance. Eventually Lynn found exactly what she had in mind: a simple and emotionally satisfying family service that gives children a meaningful role in the wedding celebration.

This five-minute ceremony — known as the Family Medallion service — can easily be integrated into any religious or civil wedding ceremony. It differs from the traditional wedding in only one respect, after the newlyweds exchange rings, their children join them for a special service focusing on the family nature of a marriage. Each child is given a Family Medallion pendant (or ring) with three interlocking circles, a symbol that represents family love (for ceremony information, see FamilyMedallion.com).

The Wheaton, Ill. couple liked the message of the family ceremony, which included a pledge to love and care for all the children either spouse brings to the marriage. “We were making a commitment to the children, and we wanted them to make a commitment to work through the challenges that our new family would inevitably face,” Lynn adds.

The Simonellis say they will never forget the special family service that was the highlight of their September 2008 wedding. The justice of the peace called each child forward and, while he read the words of the ceremony, Lynn and Cliff placed the medallions around the necks of their children. There was a lot of hugging and tears.

“I could tell by the way the kids reacted that on some level, they understood,” Lynn says. For example, Lynn’s youngest son, 5-year-old Christopher, clutched his medallion and beamed at his stepdad Cliff.  “This is cool, dude,” he said. “I love you.” Cliff, a 41-year-old salesman, had been concerned that his teenage son and daughter might not warm to the idea of a family service.  “But once we gave them the medallions, I could feel in them a palpable sense of relief — that they knew everything was going to be OK.”

Most of the guests attending the Lehman-Simonelli wedding were awed by the family ceremony.  “We got tons of compliments,” says Lynn. “People told us that they had never seen such a unique and beautiful way to recognize children.”

More than 15,000 couples annually use the Family Medallion ceremony to help strengthen the bond between parents, stepparents and children. “I was very impressed with the Family Medallion ceremony,” says Rev. David Schaal, a Minneapolis minister. “When I recently used it during a wedding, I could see the pride and happiness in the face the little boy who received the medallion. It’s my feeling that when children are involved, it’s important to do something tangible to recognize them during the wedding.”

Lynn and Cliff believe that their decision to have a “family” wedding will strengthen their family bond for years to come. “As our kids grow older, I hope they appreciate the value of family and what we did to assure them that they would always be an integral part of our lives,” Lynn says.

Andrew Lehman, 8,  isn’t thinking much about the future. He wears his Family Medallion every day and refers to the wedding as, “The day my mom, my stepdad and all of us kids got married. My medallion means family. That’s what we are.”

For additional information about Family Medallion products or the family wedding ceremony, visit www.FamilyMedallion.com or call (800) 237-1922.

Courtesy of ARAcontent